HERE ARE SOME IDEAS ON WHAT TO SAY, WHEN THEY SAY...
If Your Partner Says: "It doesn't feel as good with a condom".
You Can Say: "I'll feel more relaxed. If I'm more relaxed, I can make it feel better for you".
If Your Partner Says: "But we've never used protection before".
You Can Say: "I don't want to take any more risks".
If Your Partner Says: "condoms are gross".
You Can Say: "Being pregnant when I don't want to be is more gross and getting an STD is totally gross".
If Your Partner Says: "Don't you trust me?"
You Can Say: "Trust isn't the point. People carry STDs without knowing it".
If Your Partner Says: "I'll pull out in time".
You Can Say: "Women can get pregnant and STDs from pre-cum".
If Your Partner Says: "I thought you said using condoms made you feel cheap".
You Can Say: "I decided to face facts. I like having sex and I want to stay healthy and happy".
If Your Partner Says: "condoms aren't romantic".
You Can Say: "What's more romantic than making love and protecting each other's health at the same time".
If Your Partner Says: "Let's face it. Making love with a condom on is like taking a shower with a raincoat on".
You Can Say: "You face it. Doing it without a condom isn't making love... it's playing Russian roulette".
If Your Partner Says: "It just isn't as sensitive".
You Can Say: "Maybe that way you'll last even longer and that
will make up for it".
If Your Partner Says: "I don't stay hard when I put on a condom".
You Can Say: "I can do something about that".
If Your Partner Says: "Putting it on interrupts everything".
You Can Say: "Not if I help put it on".
If Your Partner Says: "I'll try, but it might not work".
You Can Say: "Practice makes perfect".
If Your Partner Says: "But I love you".
You Can Say: "Then you'll help me protect myself".
If Your Partner Says: "I guess you don't really love me".
You Can Say: "I do, but I'm not risking my future to prove it".
If Your Partner Says: "We're not using a condom, and that's it".
You Can Say: "OK You know how to play checkers?"
If you are a virgin and have decided to have sex and want to use
protection and your partner says: "Just this once without it. Just the first time".
You Can Say: "It only takes once to get pregnant. It only takes
once to get a disease".
Don't be afraid of being rejected. Remember, when people are given the choice of sex with a condom or no sex at all, most people will choose to have sex. Besides, the partner who doesn't care about protecting your health and well-being is not worth your sexual involvement.
